Two things that are spoke of most in the Bible is Love and Fear. They are completely opposite to one another yet we wrestle with these the most.
That four letter word that can crush a dream, hinder a relationship or stop you dead in your tracks. So frustrating, yet we all have something we fear. I know for me I tend to pretend I do not have fear, but as soon as I start making excuses about something, I realize, it's that comfortable fear once again.
One of my favorite quotes comes from “philosopher” Will Smith and is found in his movie After Earth. In this film Smith is teaching his son a very important ideal that will help him overcome any kind of obstacle. He says
If we are going to survive this, you need to remember, fear is not real. It is a product of the thoughts you create. Now do not misunderstand me; danger is very real. But fear ris a choice.
Danger is real, but fear is a choice.
Wonder why it's so comfortable to choose fear every.single.time?
Ah, something we all desire in the depths of our soul; to be loved. Loved in a way that makes you want to grit your teeth, or listen to Journey’s “don’t stop believing” all day long.
What a beautiful feeling to be loved!
But what in the world does that mean?
Our English language sells us short on great verbiage. We have the same word for: the affection of a hot dog and a Mother toward her child;
the same word describing the affection of a coworker and a passionate teenaged relationship.
Love is so hard to define.
In my opinion (if you’re asking) I think the word LOVE is the most over used word, yet the most desired one in our dialectal. Hearing the words “I love you” can melt a heart, turn a rebellion, start a fight or cause a tear. Amazing how powerful this –Love- is.
FEAR and LOVE
So different yet so much the same.
Both a choice.
Both a passion.
One is desired. One is despised.
What to do?
John writes exclaiming how you cannot have both (fully) at the same time. In 1 John 4:18 he writes:
"There is no fear in love. But perfect love drives out fear, because fear has to do with punishment. The one who fears is not made perfect in love."
The two are merged. Real love will get rid of fear. I think I know why.
When you are in a relationship that is 100% unconditional and NOTHING you say or do will take away that love, you have an indescribable security.
You may have a fear of failing so you don't try. But if you had a confidence that the someone that loves you will love you if you fail or not, that nullifies fear.
When you are living life in love (real kind of love) then there is no room for fear!
The love that this scripture is talking about is God 's love. The man who created the heavens, the earth, the sun, moon and stars is crazy in love with you!
He would do anything to be with you! He has done everything to be with you!
It comes down to a choice.
He loves you so much that, although He is your creator, He gave YOU the choice to love Him.
So, beloved, what do you choose? To live in Fear or to live in His Love?